go through more than they
will tell you. They give up a lot
and rarely have a social life.They
can get sick and emotionally
worn out. It’s a lot for one person
and you will never know until you
have walked the road of
a caregiver. ~unknown~
Who else has an idea that it is better said than done? Not just this, it is easy to condemn than create. How do I mean? Most of the times we as individuals look down on people and think they have not done enough or that they have not done so much to feel the way they do. Meanwhile, they have actually done more than we can imagine. There is something called unspoken pain.
Ask yourself sincerely if as probably expressive as you are you have been able to express the whole feelings of discomfort you experience to anyone when you are sick. I’m certain your answer will be a big fat NO. Everyone has been in this situation before. It is most likely that the people around will refer to whatever they are passing through as not so bad. Hey! It’s worse than you can imagine.
A caregiver especially experience more than you think good or bad. She might not be able to share in total the tales of the pains of pregnancy and the tensions of childbirth. What about the sleepless nights after the child has been born? Think of also having to interact with others despite having a lot of concentration to do on the newborn. Even when the child grows up, there are times a caregiver will have to starve only to feed and give life to the kid and not welcome him so early to the rigors of life. This is not just about childbirth or caregiving, it is about life generally.
You can never be the accurate judge of a situation you have not passed through. Even when you have passed through that situation, you can still not judge another person because it is most likely the case of the same scenario but difference experiences due to individuals and circumstantial differences. Everyone goes through more than you can imagine until you fill the boots. Caregivers especially fake the smile of childbirth to conceal the days of unspoken pains. Learn not to condemn anyone.