‘Families don’t have to match’ – Black couple share their journey to adopting three white children

Sadie and Jarvis Sampson tried for years to conceive – they tried everything until they gave up and accepted their fate as aunt and uncle until they received a text that altered their lives forever.

The pair had been attempting to conceive since their January 2018 wedding, but they tried everything else when that didn’t work out.

“Ovulation tests, pregnancy vitamins, period monitoring apps, and fertility monitors,” the Houston mom said.

“We tried and failed to follow the unsolicited advice of friends, relatives, and strangers. We tried, prayed, and waited for 14 months. Month after month, after month. A negative pregnancy test follows a negative pregnancy test. It appeared that we would require medical aid to conceive. We went so far as to discuss it with doctors.”


Doctors didn’t appear to be of much assistance to the pair. They all informed Sadie that if she reduced weight, she would be able to conceive, so with no other options, she underwent gastric surgery and lost 28 pounds.

Sadie’s OBGYN expressed her delight at her weight loss and told her she was proud of her.

“She told me that she’d refer me to a fertility specialist if I weren’t pregnant in six months because she couldn’t prescribe me fertility medicine,” Sadie explained. “I was ecstatic about that.” Finally, something other than a negative response! We were ecstatic to get a ‘not right now.'”

Unfortunately, the couple did not become pregnant after Sadie dropped weight, and they felt like they were back where they started.

“I’d always felt called to be a mother,” Sadie explained. “My surgeon had spent so much time warning me about how fertile I would be following surgery, but I was still not pregnant.” As a result, we gave up. We recognised we were only destined to be godparents to our goddaughters and aunts and uncles to our nieces.”

Sadie received a text from a friend asking if they would consider fostering a baby that a couple she knew was thinking for their baby, just as the couple had decided to give up their sad attempts to conceive.

The couple was first hesitant since a caseworker urged them to look after the infant while the mother sought therapy. The couple was concerned that they would become too connected to the child. However, the story soon shifted.

The caseworker explained, “The birth mother decided she wanted you, people, to adopt the child instead.”


“‘Holy crap!!’ I exclaimed aloud when I found out I would be a mom,” Sadie recalled.

“Overnight, we went from not having any children to considering fostering one to being told, ‘You guys are parents!’ Still in astonishment, I listened to the caseworker speak. I got off the phone and dialled my husband’s number! ‘Babe!! They’d like us to adopt the child! They want us to have children,’ I exclaimed. ‘Wait! REALLY?! He exclaimed, “I thought they only wanted us to nurture him!” ‘Nope! “They want us to be his mother and father,” I explained.

The couple spent the weekend processing the surprising news while also bracing for the possibility that the mother would change her mind.

On Monday, the couple learned that the mother not only wanted them to adopt the baby but that she also wanted to do an independent adoption and was ready to sign on the spot.


Their baby son was born seven weeks early, at 33 weeks. He weighed 4 lbs. 5 oz. Sadie remarked, “He fits in one of my husband’s palms.”

“He was so tiny,” Sadie said, “swaddled in a white blanket with pink and blue patterns.” “Because he was early, he couldn’t eat independently and had an NG tube going out of his nose.” But, boy, was he adorable!!!”

The pair announced their engagement on social media and received encouragement to create a register. They posted 72 things, and 55 had been purchased within three days.


The couple had gorgeous photos of them as a family wearing t-shirts that proclaimed “families don’t have to match” after Ezra Lee’s adoption was confirmed in October 2020.

Through embryo donation, Sadie and Jarvis became parents to twin girls Journee and Destinee in 2021. The black couple became parents to three white children — a boy and two girls – while sticking to their family philosophy, “Families don’t have to match.”

Anyone who judges this lovely family has only one response: their family is based on the most solid foundation imaginable: love.

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